Every day is a new day. And, everyday is the first day of the rest of your life!
In this busy life we often lose ourselves in the struggle to survive. Being social as we are, sharing experiences, comparing, or even just observing, adds to our learning, leading to a lot of confusion in the mind. Confusion as in, there is so much happening around you, which can make it difficult to decipher right from wrong. Each person has his own opinion of “right”. What is right for one may not be right for the other. Thus there is confusion.
It is almost a frightening thought that no one is the same, which makes it difficult to choose someone to ask for guidance.
As children, we absorb all instructions till when we start experiencing our own exposure to the outside world. Members of the same family are different because of the difference in their exposure. The influences are different and so the personalities develop differently.
As parents we crave for a handbook for bringing up children. But believe me, there is none. Following instincts and sharing with parents, is usually a great help. We are all looking for approvals at every stage.
Acceptance – Understanding a situation for what is, is a great quality to acquire to save some confusion and misery.
Sometimes people will mull over the same problem and make themselves miserable for years, when they could just as easily have said “so what” and moved on. Acceptance helps in maintaining a mental balance. Accept that you cannot change what is not in your control. Your behavior can influence the other person to treat you in a particular way. If you like that, you will continue the relationship, but, if you don’t, you have to avoid that person or maybe try to influence that person to change.
Acceptance saves a lot of relationships. However, this should not be at the expense of your own self esteem and dignity.
Tolerance goes hand in hand with acceptance. Quite often you find yourself in a very difficult situation. Your partner, child or colleague is being very difficult and causing you a lot of anguish and frustration. You must remember that all we have control over is ourselves. Therefore it is very important to differentiate what we can change and what we cannot. These situations definitely require a mature attitude and approach. After all, we all pursue happiness and harmony in our lives. When you believe in yourself, you do not have to try to convince others. When you are content with yourself, you will not need others approval. When you accept yourself, the whole world will accept you.
Human beings are very complex. What makes one happy may not necessarily apply to the other. Everyone’s priorities and thresholds of tolerance are different. In a group, the same situation will receive varied reactions. Exercising tolerance and accepting the way things are, results in movement and progress towards the goal of that group. A matter can be discussed to no end. To reach a conclusion, some in the group have to accept decisions of others. This is where authority figures play their fair part.
Serenity is a state of mind which does not happen by chance. We have to make an effort to obtain and maintain that state of mind. This is a very difficult task, but definitely attainable. Starting the day with a prayer to your “God”, to grant you serenity, to help you accept the things you cannot change, the courage to change the things you can, and the wisdom to know the difference. This prayer, with sincerity, will definitely put you on the path to maintaining balance, serenity of the mind and harmony in your life.